Y'all Got Issues - from OK Cupid

OK Cupid has a variety of features to help its members evaluate potential matches. Aside from member profiles--where they can describe themselves and what they are looking for in their own words, there are a battery of "survey" questions that you can answer. Things like: "Would you ever sleep with someone on the first date?" The answers to these questions factor into OK Cupid's match-making algorithms, and determine (in part or in whole, I'm not sure) how other members compare.

OKC provides "meta-data" in the form of three numbers for each member, as seen from the perspective of any other member. These numbers are "Match," "Friend," and "Enemy." (ENEMY?! Really??!!!) So yeah--it seems that higher Match and Friend scores, with lower Enemy scores, make for a more likely connection--though without some sort of testing, who can say whether this is "true" or not? It seems that we are all just trusting OK Cupid will "get it right" in this regard.

I don't know why, but I've made 30% my cut-off point on the enemy score. There are a couple people I've favorited, or given 4 star ratings that are a little higher than this, but that was earlier in the whole process.

Each OK Cupid profile has four tabs--the About tab is where a person can describe herself/himself in their own words, within 11 or fewer sub-categories. The second tab is Photos, which is self-explanatory. The third tab will be either "The Two of Us," or "Y'all Got Issues," depending on whether there is a low or high enemy score between the two people involved. And the fourth tab, "Personality," provides a comparison based on personality traits like being more or less "Compassionate," "Political," or "Adventurous."

Whenever I run into a interesting person with a "Y'all Got Issues" tab, I like to open that up and see how we compare. I've definitely scratched people off my "possible" list for some of the answers that differ from my own. One example was a woman who didn't think men should ever wear earrings. Yawn....

Well today I came across a different "Y'all Got Issues" response that I found amusing. She's currently a 57% Match, 64% Friend, and 37% Enemy--so she's outside my enemy range anyway. But she sounds OK from her profile, and she looks nice enough. But the kicker is that she's a little chubby--which I don't mind at all. I'm a little chubby. But it's the survey question that popped up under "Y'all Got Issues" that inspired me to blog this today. (Her response is the top one; mine is the lower):

If one of your potential matches were overweight, would that be a dealbreaker?

Yes, even if they were slightly overweight.

No. Not a "dealbreaker" deal breaker given the fact that most people tend to put on some weight in their middle years. I'm not a "chubby-chaser," but some fat (yeah, I said it) women wear their weight well. I'm overweight myself, but I'm pretty fit despite that. Being fit and healthy is more important to me than weight. Based on appearance alone I seem more attracted by curvy women trending towards HWP rather than BBW. But there are some hot BBWs out there too!

I suspect that many would view her as at least "slightly" overweight. Yet that would be a deal breaker for her? OK lady, good luck with that!

Actually--I have NOTHING to remark about. She's being "honest" about what she wants. I just wonder what sort of person would allow an otherwise wonderful person slip through their fingers because they were "slightly overweight?" Seems like you'd have to be pretty shallow. 

I mean--if it's a deal breaker for even considering a person, might it not also be grounds for dumping someone? "Sorry honey, you've put on a few pounds since I've been wining and dining you three times a week for the past month. This is goodbye. See ya!"

Yeah--I'm sure I'm making too much of this, but wow.